Three years ago, I wrote Happy Not-the-Momma’s Day. I revisited that post and was struck by the changes and developments since then. First, some things which remain true. I have not and will not try to shoehorn myself into Mother’s Day, because that is a day where we celebrate my wife. My daughter doesn’t call... Continue Reading →
What is Gender? (Part 3)
To categorize humans, we first need to decide on which characteristics we will use for evaluation and sorting them.
What is Gender? (Part 2)
When we left off, we had covered the dictionary definition of gender and a few related concepts. We found that while gender and sex relate to each other, one does not dictate the other. Let's dig deeper...
When forms ask for sex/gender… what’s a trans woman to do?
I was recently completing forms for a doctors office. While these forms were tedious before I came out, as a trans person, they've become really tricky.
A Binary Troll
Content warning: there's some offensive and transphobic language in this post
Q: Our daughter would like us to tell her Grandparents that she is transgender. Do you have any tips? / How can a 3-year-old know their gender?
Basically, keep it happy and leave little space for dissent.
Q: Why is gender reassignment surgery advocated to be “required” for health insurance purposes, but “not required” for legal purposes?
The term I think you mean to use is “Medically Necessary”. Whether a medicine or procedure is medically necessary is a question best left to the patient and their doctors.
Q: How early do transgender individuals know they are transgender? Do transgender people feel like they were born the wrong sex or the wrong gender?
Every person’s experience is different; there isn’t a universal answer to this question. Further, there are different ways to interpret the question which can lead to vastly different answers.
Q: Is it better to be a man or a woman? What do you think about gender change? About the trans community?
Lots of questions about my opinions. I have answers...
Q: My daughter is considering changing her gender, I don’t agree with her decision, but I want to support her because ultimately it’s her life. What else can I do?
So she might not be a girl. It isn’t the end of the world, not for her, and not for you.