When I responded to the New York Times op-ed piece "My New Vagina Won't Make Me Happy", I was about 6 weeks away from having my own vaginoplasty. I'm now about 12 weeks post-op, and I have a different perspective now that I'm on the other side of surgery.
The weeks following my first post-op visit started slowly, with me only able to move around within the apartment at first, then small trips to the grocery or pharmacy.
I'll be getting a bit more graphic in this post, discussing some of the more, er, bloody details. If you don't like blood and other by-products of surgery, you might want to skip this post.
This past weekend, the New York times published an op-ed piece by Andrea Long Chu entitled "My New Vagina Won't Make Me Happy (And it shouldn't have to)". This column caused shock waves through the trans community for many of the things the author said and the way she characterized different aspects of her experience as a transgender woman.
Here is my response.
This may end up being the biggest life-changing event of my life, and there is a lot of anxiety and fear as I approach it.
I've been asked many times some variation of a fundamental question: why do you need to have this surgery?
The short answer: because I do.
With this post, I'm going to get into a medical procedure (surgery) which reconfigures a person's genitals. I'm going to include links to pictures and discuss body parts graphically (in a clinical manner. If you're squeamish or don't really want to see this, please skip this post; it's ok, I understand.