Dysphoria itself is sometimes strange to me, so it’s hard for me to judge the relative strangeness of various aspects. So here’s an incomplete list…
For those who have never experienced it, no description will ever suffice. For those who have experienced it, no description is needed.
When I responded to the New York Times op-ed piece "My New Vagina Won't Make Me Happy", I was about 6 weeks away from having my own vaginoplasty. I'm now about 12 weeks post-op, and I have a different perspective now that I'm on the other side of surgery.
While I still have a long ways to go, to me it feels like I'm closer to my destination than I am to where I started.
Today is Christmas. This year, I entered the holiday season in a better place than I've ever been before.
So why do I feel so bad?
About 2 years ago, I wrote "The ‘D’ word", in which I described my experience at that point with dysphoria. A lot has changed in the two years since, so I'm revisiting the topic to see if I can find any new or helpful information.
This past weekend, the New York times published an op-ed piece by Andrea Long Chu entitled "My New Vagina Won't Make Me Happy (And it shouldn't have to)". This column caused shock waves through the trans community for many of the things the author said and the way she characterized different aspects of her experience as a transgender woman.
Here is my response.