Genderfluid – is it real?

There’s a lot of debate right now about the notion that a person can be genderfluid.  Many take the opinion that it’s made up – that people who identify as genderfluid are just trying to be “special snowflakes”.  My experience is that it is quite real, and I am by no means a “special snowflake”.

Every day I wake up with the potential for my gender to be masculine or feminine. I don’t have any control over which, yet (though I’m trying).  Just like Schrodinger’s cat was presumed to be both alive and dead until the box was opened and the cat was observed, you can presume me as both male and female until I wake up and observe my gender identity.  And here’s the magical part: sometimes I’m still both male and female after I wake up!

To try to give others a peek into this strange world of genderfluidity, I’ve created this blog. Please feel free to ask genuine questions or add your own experiences.  I want to educate and maybe even entertain, but I will not tolerate trolls.  And no concern trolling, either.

I’m not out to anyone except my spouse, so I will be keeping identifying information off this blog. Names will be anonymized and information that could be used to identify me or anyone I mention will be similarly sanitized.

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  1. I identify as genderfluid and I’m so happy you’re doing this! One question about your experience, do your pronouns change? I like to change mine when I switch and I know it’s different for everyone so I was just wondering

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    1. Hi, as you keep reading, you’ll find that I eventually realized that I am a trans woman (binary), so my pronouns became she/her. At the time I was still exploring the possibility of genderfluid, I experimented with pronouns, and asked people who were safe (like my support group) to use she/her pronouns – which I found I quite liked!

      But most of the time, I was so focused on just figuring out what my gender *was* that I wasn’t paying much attention to pronouns. If I had it to do over, I would probably have spent a little more time on pronouns, as they were helpful in figuring out where and who I was.


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